Love Languages (Aiden Hobbs

5/20/2020

Recently Sabrina asked me to take a test on “love languages” or how one best receives love. There are five categories that include words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, acts of service, or receiving gifts. They are measured in percentages. My highest percent was physical touch while Sabrina’s is receiving gifts. This test is based off of a book The 5 Love Languages The Secret To Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman. One of the theories is that relationships fail because they aren’t communicating and they aren’t aware of their significant others' love language and this makes them feel like their other does not care. This isn’t the case most of the time, they just don’t know how to show them that they care. I have found some truth to this and encourage you to take the test yourself. This is not just for someone you are in love with but family members and friends also. It can show that you care about them and are thinking of them. I think that this can be a great tool in uplifting each other at this time.

What do you think of this test and idea? Do you believe it is real and will you take the test? If you knew the love language of another would that make you more likely to do something that will speak to them? Have you already taken this test or are aware of these languages?

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/

35 Comments

Erykah Foss

5/23/2020 02:17:14 pm

The diversity of humans is fascinating. How we individually think, speak, and act is truly unique and incredible. I like the idea of everyone has a different way of receiving love from others, whether they are family, friends, or significant others. I have never heard of the 5 Love Languages book by Chapman or the online test until I read this post. I just took the test, and it was very straight-forward. My primary love language is quality time. I think this is accurate because I love spending time with my family and friends. Playing games, cooking, and eating are just a few of the ways we spend time together. If I knew my family and friends’ love languages, I would definitely do more of what suits their needs because I care about them, and I want them to feel loved.

Sabrina

5/24/2020 10:44:18 am

It's cool to hear other peoples' love languages and then see how much it matches what you know about them.

Aiden

5/24/2020 11:08:19 am

Thanks for taking the test and I’m glad you think it’s accurate. I came to the same conclusion.

Faith

5/24/2020 11:58:38 am

It really is amazing to see how other humans can be so unique in every single way. I also would like to know other people’s love languages to help me understand them more.

Alyssa Farnworth

5/24/2020 04:14:45 pm

Quality time was also my primary love language. Do you think that your family members might have very different results than you? If your family knew this about you do you think they would go out of their way more to spend more time with you?

Sabrina

5/24/2020 10:37:13 am

I was introduced to the five love languages test by my mom and every time I take it I get the same results. My primary love language is gifts. At first that seemed like the most selfish love language and I was rather embarrassed by it. I feel like I always have to assure people that I'm not going to throw a fit if you don't get me a new car. Receiving a dandelion that you picked from your backyard is more meaningful to me than just chilling with me. Knowing what my family member's love languages are has really helped me understand them better and know how to better make them happy. I would recommend that everyone take this test because I think it's accurate and useful.

Aiden

5/24/2020 11:06:40 am

I wish I knew my family members love languages because they don’t like me very much

Faith

5/24/2020 11:59:56 am

I agree. It’s the little, unexpected gifts that are the most meaningful.

Ezra

5/24/2020 01:48:34 pm

Im sure if I knew more people that took the test it would be useful for understanding them, but since I don't have anyone to test it with I am skeptical.

Madicyn

5/24/2020 02:53:10 pm

It’s very good to know your families love languages as well! This can help you know what to do for birthdays, Mother’s Day, and other moments I life to express your love in a way that makes them feel loved.

Brax Kauffman

5/24/2020 03:19:44 pm

I like that you have been able to use the results of this test to benefit your relationships with your family.

Faith

5/24/2020 12:15:05 pm

This idea of love languages is very intriguing to me. I took the quiz and got “Words of Affirmation” at 32% and “Quality Time” at 29%, which were the two highest ranking love languages. I feel that both of these are very accurate, and very important. It’s comforting when I can be reassured or hear from the people I love that they love and care about me too. But, I also enjoy spending quality time with the people I love and try to cherish every moment I get with them because I never know how much time I will get with them.
When the quiz explained “Words of Affirmation”, it said that I enjoy hearing kind words or compliments from the people I love, and insults will stick with me and can hurt me. I completely agree with this point because who doesn’t love a good compliment? Also, I tend to hang on to the hurtful things that are said to me and not forget them. Basically, I tend to overthink pretty often. Overall, I think this is a very interesting and fun thing to learn about and to understand, because it could potentially improve connections with other people. It can also help me understand how to cater to their needs and make them happier.

Ezra

5/24/2020 01:50:28 pm

I agree it could help connections with others, but I don't think that I it is accurate enough to rely on for everyone.

Madicyn

5/24/2020 02:52:10 pm

That is true about it maybe not being accurate for everyone, maybe different tests can create a better result.

Brax Kauffman

5/24/2020 03:18:20 pm

The way you talked about the quality time aspect was very similar to how I think about it. I think it is nice being able to spend time with those closest to me.

Sabrina

5/24/2020 05:34:03 pm

Words of affirmation is high on mine too. I think the categories were well thought out and pretty encompassing.

Ezra

5/24/2020 01:46:36 pm

I got acts of service being 27%, and I guess I agree with it. People helping me with chores or other work is very helpful, and I appreciate it. I think that the test had a lot of the same questions over and over again, and I don't think it was very accurate, but it was kind of fun to do. I think that if someone I know took the test and agreed to their results than I would think of that more when I was around the person. I was not aware of the languages but I did just take the test. I personally don't believe in them but it was interesting to learn.

Alyssa Farnworth

5/24/2020 04:16:15 pm

I liked that you mentioned how you feel it might not be accurate. For a lot of people they say it is but I also agree that tests are not always correct.

Kately

5/26/2020 12:13:11 pm

I agree, they aren’t always accurate. I just think it’s an interesting thing to keep in mind. Like, if I was around another person whose love language I knew, I’ll have a better understanding of what they might appreciate more.

Madicyn

5/24/2020 02:51:02 pm

I think the 5 love languages is a vital tool that people should use. I was introduced to this idea a few years ago, my moms friends marriage had just failed, ending in a divorce. These two were having a conversation about the book you mentioned, my mom read it soon after her friend. These two would not stop talking about it, so then I read bits and pieces about it too. My mom claims that this book may be able to save relationships or marriages. If two people understand one another and how they express their love, and how their significant other needs or wants to receive love, it makes complete sense of how this could help a relationship. I am going to take the test after blogging, but if I remember right words of affirmation and physical touch were my love languages.

Tori Weir

5/24/2020 08:50:02 pm

I think its important for two people to understand, communicate, and to consider what the other is thinking and needs to make a relationship to work. I also like that you mentioned that the book does help relationships.

Kately

5/26/2020 12:17:59 pm

Communication is key in relationships. Sometimes significant others might not feel they are appreciated. Others may show their love differently, but it’s important to show your love for someone in a way that they are most receptive to. I agree that the concept is beneficial for relationships.

Paige Hilton

5/24/2020 03:09:26 pm

I don't put much faith in tests that claim to know intimate details about a person by asking a few questions. However, I believe that the way people want to feel loved can be categorized in these specific groups. I thought this post was interesting and I was curious what my results would be, so I took the test.
I received "quality time" to be the most meaningful way to be loved by someone you care for. I was skeptical of the test but I do have to agree that out of all the categories, I enjoy spending quality time with those I love the most.
I most certainly would do more to meet the love language of those I care for. If we aren't continually trying to be better for those we love and show them how much they mean to us, then do we really love them?

Tori Weir

5/24/2020 08:43:42 pm

I also don't put much faith in personality tests that only asks a few questions and try to match to what best describes you based on the results. I also like that you mentioned of trying to be better for those we love and show them that. Do you think your results were accurate?

Brax Kauffman

5/24/2020 03:16:30 pm

I believe that this test can help you figure more about yourself or your partner but also to take it at a reasonable level. For myself, the highest of the test results were quality time at 37% and then physical touch at 27%. I think this is an accurate representation of myself. I enjoy spending time with people above everything else and just being close with them. I do not think that it is required to know someone’s love language to make things work, however I believe it can be a great help if it is gone about the right way. I have taken this test before a couple of years ago and I’m pretty sure that my results have not changed much since then.

Andy Gebhardt

5/24/2020 05:42:59 pm

That is cool to see that you aligned with your test results so well. I want to take the test at some point to see what it says about me. However, do you think taking the test had helped/will help your relationships?

Alyssa Farnworth

5/24/2020 04:08:08 pm

I had heard of the test before this, my results haven't changed much. I believe the test could be an effective tool in a relationship no matter its label (romantic, platonic, family, etc.). I however feel that knowing these things about someone does not necessarily mean the relationship will work. There are many reasons why relationships don't work. For myself, my highest test result was quality time at 40% next words of affirmation at 20%. I think this is a pretty accurate representation of myself. I just like to be around my friends and the people I love. As I stated knowing these things about the people you are close to can be an effective tool.

Paige

5/24/2020 05:18:26 pm

I agree that knowing these things can be effective in knowing how to treat the people you love. I also like how you noted that there are a variety of reasons as to why relationships fail and knowing love languages doesn't guarantee a relationship will last.

Andy Gebhardt

5/24/2020 05:41:29 pm

I agree that the test is not necessarily accurate. I think it can help out in situations but it is definitely not a determining factor to know everything about someone else. After all, the test had not been around for that long. Do you think it will help people’s relationships or not?

Andy Gebhardt

5/24/2020 05:02:36 pm

I have heard of this book and test but have never really looked into it. It is an interesting idea because it makes some sense that there are certain things that are important to people. However, the problem I see with this test is that it cannot be super accurate and could cause flawed results. Also, there are probably more than five ideas in love that contribute to this type of thing. After all, love is one of the most diverse and strange things that happens in life. It can be so different based on the individual.
I feel that I would want to take the test just to see what I get but I do not think the results would affect me that much. Knowing somebody else’s love language would be more helpful but I think there is a lot to be said about trying to reach all “five” languages instead of just one. Overall, it is a neat topic and one that would be very interesting to study or know what studies have been done on it.

Paige

5/24/2020 05:16:52 pm

It is an interesting theory that there is a lot to be said in reaching all five languages. It could be more important to find balance between these five categories than trying to satisfy one or two.

Tori Weir

5/24/2020 08:39:18 pm

I always found personality tests interesting because its someone or group of people guessing and trying to tell what a person is like based off of the answers chosen. It’s fun to take these kinds of tests and see what most likely matches me and read the result but I never believe that it is truly accurate and it defines who I am. I have heard of this test and book because a family member showed me it. My results have not changed after taking the test again and I do not really know how I feel about it. Quality Time was “40%” and Acts of Service was “30%”, which both of them were pretty high. I felt conflicted with these results because I know that I value time with close friends and family but at the same time love is shown in many ways and can be complicated. However, I do believe this quiz is accurate and can show insight to people who may not know about this concept.

Erykah

5/26/2020 01:28:50 pm

I like completing personality tests, too. It's fun to see how everyone else in the class differs as well. I thought my results were accurate, but our emotions are complicated and should not be defined by an online test.

Kately

5/26/2020 12:09:14 pm

I find love languages to be fascinating. I think it’s beneficial to know the best way to show your love for someone. My two highest were Acts of Service and Quality Time. Humans are very different from one another, and it’s sometimes difficult to communicate. If we gain knowledge of another person in this way, by discovering how they would respond to a certain act of kindness, we can better show our appreciation for that person.

Erykah

5/26/2020 01:33:23 pm

Since technology has become more prevalent in our generation, I think people our age find it more difficult communicating. It's interesting seeing how older generations communicated their love, like writing love letters, versus today, where we have dating apps and online dating.

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