This has probably happened to me, but I don’t remember a specific moment. I do think this would feel super discouraging, and make you not want to try as hard though. Sometimes it’s not what you know it’s who you know.
One time in like 7th grade they gave a student of the month award to two girls when usually they award it to a girl and a boy. They said it was because “there were no boys who they thought were deserving.” I was like “uh I’m sitting right here, thank you very much.”
That’s pretty funny honestly😂
That’s a big oof.
Well dang, rip
Yea that’s very insulting to all boys.
Yah 7th grade teachers can really be
And some high school teachers.
I can’t remember a specific time but I would feel as though my efforts were useless and feel like a loser.
Tough but true😂
Probably same lol
I don’t think I’ve ever had this happen to me, but I do think that I have been that person that has gotten the award that other people were upset by. I think most people work for the award in someway, even if you think that you worked harder. I feel like it would make me upset too, though.
Fr a mood
I feel like in a lot of sports coaches just choose favorites. It makes me really mad. It isn’t fair.
Hey our coach does that
Yeah that’s part of the reason I fell away from team sports like basketball and football, switching to things such as cross country and track and golf. I was tired of my teammate so nit giving any effort.
I bet this has happened to me, I just can’t remember. I feel like I would worthless since I didn’t actually earn it.
Wow very interesting.
I feel at certain times that I have experienced this but I’m sure that it sucks. It is always really hard especially if you have put the work in and they haven’t.
Yeah I agree, it makes me mad when lazy people get rewarded.
Ya I don’t like lazy people
I don’t remember a specific time that this has happened to me, but I’m sure it has. I can assume that it would be really disappointing, and it would probably cause me to be jealous. It would probably motivate me to try harder so that it wouldn’t happen again.
That is very true!!
It’s great that you turn the negativity into positivity.
Most of the time when I’ve been passed up for an award or opportunity I try to act like it doesn’t bother me, it usually makes me feel like I didn’t do a good enough job.
I understand that.
It makes you feel like all your work was for nothing. When you strive so hard for something then it goes to someone else you also probably get mad at the person who didn’t chose you. Especially if you don’t think the person who got it worked hard or deserved it.
Ya I agree
Like Lebron James and winning MVP. Multiple times he has been deserving and got snubbed because he’s already won more than everybody else. This is because he is the G.O.A.T, and people don’t want to recognize him as such.
Well it has probably happened to me but I don’t really realize it a lot, it is not really discouraging it just makes me want to work harder and set high goals and try to achieve them.
I agree. That’s mostly how I feel too.
If this has happened to me I can’t exactly remember a specific experience. It would probably make me feel disappointed. You might lose interest in whatever you may have been passed over in.
Yeah your smart
I have never personally been passed up for an award for someone who I thought didn’t deserve it. I know that I am not exceptional in very many things so I don’t get personally offended by those things easily. I can see how that may be very annoying and make someone angry.
Well if you don’t get offended easily I would say that is pretty exceptional. More people need to be like that.
I would feel annoyed as well.
I think you are great at a lot of things Madeline!!
You are super talented Madeline!!
I’ve never put much value in recognition so I don’t remember any situation like that. I imagine it would feel really bad if you honestly thought you deserved it especially if it was a job opportunity. It would be frustrating if you had more in you then what people thought.
Its very humble of you to not put much value into being recognized.
You should always focus on your own personal growth, and recognize it yourself, even if the public might not.
I can’t recall a specific time this happened to me but I’d be pretty frustrated if it was something that pertained to me directly. I wouldn’t be very happy if I thought I deserved it and someone else got it.
Yes I have, people have passed me over for awards before because they feel bad for the person and give them the award instead of the people that actually deserve it
Right. The adults just give out sympathy awards.
Yah I hate that
One experience that I had with this was during student of the month when a kid gets it for the fifth time in a row but has an F in the class. Things like that make me feel that I deserved it more than them.
Ouch. It is interesting what we use recognition to do.
Maybe you should try getting an F.
Is that a challenge?
I haven’t been passed over for an opportunity, award, etc. I think it would feel disappointing especially if you worked extremely hard for the award or opportunity.
That situation is never good, especially when the other person didn’t work as hard as you. I’ve had experiences where I felt that person just got that opportunity for free. I’ve also been in the opposite situation, where I felt I didn’t deserve something, and someone else could do a better job at it. It’s all based on personal judgment.
I agree that personal judgment is a huge factor.
I felt a little let down. I had worked very hard for something and it was given to someone else. I didn’t think they had done as well as I had. I ranted for a hot minute to my sister why I thought I deserved that opportunity, but in the end she brought to common ground with that person. I realized that they were chosen because they were seen fit to do the task.
This has happened to me a couple of times. I’m angry for working so hard Just to be put down. It made me feel not good enough and makes me not confident. I feel like I’m not worth anything. I can’t really do anything about it so I get a bit depressed until it passes, then work twice and hard next time.
It’s good that you start to work harder, that’s a really good trait.
I haven’t been passed over for an award that mattered to me too much or I just forgot about it. If I where to get passed over for an award I wanted then I would feel a lite under appreciated. To me an award is just a way that people show that they recognize you for what you do, but even if people don’t recognize your talents you have that doesn’t mean that your talents are worse or not as good as someone else’s.
The person’s opinion that should matter to you most is your’s anyway.
That last line is quote worthy. Way to clutch.
I usually agree with the executive decision made. Sometimes I think feel like my hard work and other teammates or partners should get the recognition too. It usually is a motivator for me to do better though.
When people get called down during an assembly to play those games, and I’m sittin there thinking that I could do way better than them. It makes me feel like I have potential that people don’t know I have, and it creates a desire to share it.
That’s a really cool way to think about that
You actually want to do those? Well next time they call my name, you can go down for me;)
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