"There's a snake in my boot!" -Woody

5/25/2019

Bring a shovel to bury the snakes in your life, it’s time to get rid of the poisonous relationships. Many people believe that they have good friends, in society if one does not have many friends, then they are considered a “loner”. Little does everyone know, these “loners” just realize which friends are snakes. Not many people have this talent.

For those who do not know the slang definition for a snake, here it is. “Jake Paul, Jake Paul is a snake”, according to Urbandictionary.com. If nobody knows why our boy Jake is a snake, I can better define it as a friend who slithers in at a vulnerable time, and strikes when you least expect it. If this hasn’t happened to you: congratulations, you might actually have a decent friend.

There are many ways to find out if there are snakes in your life. Pay close attention to the friends that only want to talk to you when they need something. If someone is not willing to drop everything and come see you in the hospital, drop the friendship. If something really great happens in life, and for some reason that friend can’t be happy for you… You’ve got a snake in your boot..

How many people have done you dirty? Should everyone take buzzfeed quizzes to see if they should end a relationship? Are certain relationships in your life being sabotaged? Are YOU a snake? Is your #ONE friend a snake?

https://www.buzzfeed.com/ariannarebolini/types-of-friends-you-shouldnt-feel-bad-dumping
https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/6197/signs-fake-friends/
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=snake

37 Comments

Katarina

5/26/2019 07:04:08 pm

Personally I have had some people in my life that were snakes. I did the wise thing though and cut them off before they completely used me. I think some part of human nature is snake like that people use others for personal gain. Not all people are like this but some fall in the category. If you have a snake in your life my advice is to run.

Rachel

5/26/2019 07:12:00 pm

I agree, the wise thing to do is cut them off. We do not need people like that in our lives. It is also such a sad fact that people use others for personal gain. How selfish and narcissistic are we?! It is honestly embarrassing. I wish people could just be real and be motivated by kindness and love instead of personal gain.

Katherine

5/26/2019 07:12:11 pm

I have had snakes as well and I agree that the best possible thing is to cut them out and not let them back into your life.

Jesse B.

5/26/2019 07:36:49 pm

Why run when you can stomp it into oblivion. I would handle this type of issue by confronting the person because people will often back down when asked face-to-face. If that does not work, then that would be a good time to cut them out. If people do not talk about it, nothing would be solved. It is time to stop hiding and take on these people head on. What would you do to solve problems like these?

Rachel

5/26/2019 07:09:41 pm

I think that the idea of fake friends being snakes is a perfect analogy. They slither in at vulnerable or convenient times, and usually pretend to have your best interests at heart while truly being selfishly motivated. I'm sure all of us have experienced this to some extent, and it is so hurtful to see someone you thought was there for you turn away. I have been very lucky with my friends and have only experienced this once or twice but I truly wish that people could just be real and not pretend to be there for someone, because I think it can be more hurtful than we realize. We need to be able to recognize when we have those fake people in our lives and have the courage to break ties with them, or "get rid of the snake".

Sariah

5/26/2019 07:12:26 pm

We all definitely have felt like there are those people in your life. One thing I think people should do when they recognize someone is being fake or hurting them is talk to that person. Sometimes that person is not even realizing they are being terrible or they do know it and need a reminder that it isn’t cool. This gives them a chance to change. If they don’t, leave out to them.

Conrad

5/26/2019 07:20:13 pm

I agree that there are plenty of fake people out there and the key is being able to differentiate between those who are and aren't. You can be nice to those fake people but you cant let them into your life.

Katarina

5/26/2019 07:48:19 pm

I agreed I’m sure we have all experienced this at least once but hopefully we have all learned from it.

Sariah

5/26/2019 07:10:08 pm

I honestly do not think taking one survey online should help you decide if your friends are toxic. I think recognizing a snake of a friend just takes some life evaluation. Which involves taking a step back from life and seeing if those people are benefiting you or holding you back. Also I think a big thing to remember is that just because someone is toxic for you doesn’t mean they are a terrible person. This just means that you and them are not good for each other.

Katherine

5/26/2019 07:13:58 pm

I agree that we shouldn’t need an internet quiz to tell us who is a snake or not. We should be able to notice on our own. Especially at this point we are old enough that we know who is good or bad for us.

Conrad

5/26/2019 07:16:13 pm

I agree that many times people arent intentionally snakes, they just don't fit in with you and their personality doesn't fit the other person.

Rachel

5/26/2019 07:16:22 pm

I agree about the surveys, they are honestly more entertaining than accurate. An online survey should not be what tells you whether or not to stay in a relationship, you should be able to recognize that for yourself. Life is about growth and part of that growth is learning to recognize the people that are good for you, and stay away from the people that are "toxic", like you said.

Kenna

5/26/2019 07:23:17 pm

Taking a survey is not the best way to tell who's a snake. I agree that you have to figure it out yourself and it's not always easy to see who's bad for you.

Brooke

5/26/2019 07:26:32 pm

Correct, the internet quiz is the worst way to determine a friendship. I like how you said that just because you are not compatible does not mean they are a bad person, well put.

Katherine

5/26/2019 07:11:10 pm

I’ve had quite a few people do me dirty and take advantage of me. Honestly though that’s life. Without these people we wouldn’t learn how to grow. Even if it’s not something big, we recognize that there’s smaller things that happen and it becomes toxic. If we never experience anything toxic even if it is just s little, we never know what is truly good. I think right now I am in a good place and there’s not anyone trying to sabotage my relationships with other people. I’m personally not a snake. I could pretty much care less about the paths that people take. If they’re having a good life, leave them be and let them live it. If it’s terrible, intervene but without snaking in.

Sariah

5/26/2019 07:16:15 pm

I like how you bring up how toxic relationships start with small things. I wish people could focus more on their own lives and how they are treating people then how someone else is. I find in our school especially there are a lot of people who talk behind other’s backs and don’t confront them in a mature matter. If something is bothering you straight up tell them? Am I right? If it something that isn’t even a big deal then don’t make it one.

Kenna

5/26/2019 07:26:18 pm

It is life. People will always be there to stab you in the back. You just have to sort it out for your self and not be a snake to others.

Brooke

5/26/2019 07:28:59 pm

True, without those people, how would we ever learn to be aware of the mishaps? As bad as it seems to have a terrible friend, the experience teaches us a lesson. People are free to live their lives.

Katarina

5/26/2019 07:49:06 pm

Good point. These experiences shape us into who we are today and help us grow and learn.

Conrad

5/26/2019 07:12:33 pm

I actually have never had a person or individual be a 'snake' and do me dirty or stab me in the back. I simple don't surround myself with these people who would do that. I definitely don't use online quizzes rule my relationships, I can be mature enough and smart enough to realize what needs to be done for myself. I just can judge people for who they are and don't let those who are snakes do things that they could mess up on purpose.

Challis

5/26/2019 07:32:46 pm

Maturity is something you need to hve when dealing with fake people. A survey is probably not the best way to go about that.

Kenna

5/26/2019 07:13:52 pm

I have always thought that having only a few good friends is better than having many "friends." A good friend is better than five fake friends. Personally I am not the best at spotting snakes. My first "best friend" was a fake friend and boy, it may have been rough at the time but I'm glad we cut ties. Now I have much better friends.

Bailey

5/26/2019 07:57:10 pm

It's very smart to cut ties with fake friends, it leaves you in a better spot. And while yes, it may hurt, in the long run, you'll hurt less.

Kelsey

5/26/2019 09:34:07 pm

I only need a few friends too. However, in contrast to you I feel I'm pretty good at spotting the snakes. I'm also very cautious when it comes to having friends, so I don't get hurt as often - defense mechanism.

Challis

5/26/2019 07:20:41 pm

Fake friends are not worth the trouble. Cutting ties with them is the best option when dealing with them. I'm not saying you have to be mean to them, be nice, be friendly, just don't hang out with them any more. Taking a survey may not be the best idea to figure out if your friend is a snake though. You'll have to figure that out for yourself, its not always easy to see who is a snake.

Bailey

5/26/2019 07:55:52 pm

I completely agree. I have had to do this a couple times, and whiile it has been relatively easy to do, sometimes it has hurt.

Kelsey

5/26/2019 09:37:43 pm

I agree, it is always good to be civil and courteous and try not to make any drama when there is a snake. Of course you don't need to be friends with them, but it is still good to be friendly.

Brooke

5/26/2019 07:24:14 pm

There will always be snakes in our lives. The wisdom comes in knowing who is one and how to deal with it. I think we all have dealt with a fake friend once or twice, but that doesn't mean every friend should be under suspicion. I personally think I have a pretty good radar for seeking out these 'snakes'. I am friendly with them, but not to the point of trusting them to complete a task or expecting them to be fully honest always. The good friends are the ones who stick by you when you are at the lowest, and to be that friend for others is an award in itself.

Challis

5/26/2019 07:29:22 pm

You should always be a good person and be nice. Finding a snake means finding out how to deal with one.

Jazz

5/26/2019 07:25:21 pm

I am not good at spotting fake people, so I don’t usually form too many close bonds with people. The first time I was introduced to a snake was when my aunt moved into my grandma’s house and stole from her even though she was already being offered free housing and food. This incident made me realize that there would always be snakes in the world. I try to be at least acquaintances with everyone but it is very rare for me to actually become good friends with people. In the end, I think it’s just best to appreciate the friends you have while you have them.

Jesse B.

5/26/2019 07:41:40 pm

I like how you provide an example for your post. It makes the message more meaningful. It is nice to at least know people. You cannot find a true friend unless you meet folks, right? Is this a personal or a cultural issue? Do you think this problem can be solved?

Saylor

5/26/2019 07:47:46 pm

Closing yourself off isn’t always the best solution, but if it is what you are comfortable with there is no reason to change. Not everyone needs a bunch of friends. A couple really close ones is all you. Can really ask for.

Jesse B.

5/26/2019 07:30:34 pm

Friends are like the Beanboozle jellybeans, they all look the same on the outside but once you bite into them, some are great and some taste like puke. The point is people should be careful when looking for relationships. There is always a chance that one person could break your heart and yet there is another who could make your life into an incredible time. I cannot really say for certain that many people have wronged me in the past, but there are some who I lost connection with due to certain events. Do not close yourself off from others just because you cannot handle another snake in your life. One of our basic human needs is to have human interaction (friends), so just because one dip stick decided to tell the whole world about your weird toe fungus does not mean the end of friends for you. Be open, but cautious, especially with all of us going into the real world.

Jazz

5/26/2019 07:43:02 pm

I love the bean boozled comparison, very accurate. I agree that you shouldn’t close yourself off completely to people just because of one bad experience.

Saylor

5/26/2019 07:46:10 pm

I agree! Fake friends don’t usually have only one bad experience though. Often times it happens on repeat, and you feel as if they are never there for you. That was a really good way of explaining fake friends, way to paint a picture for me!

Bailey

5/26/2019 07:54:18 pm

This is my main reason for keeping my friend group small. The fewer people I let in, the less chance there is of getting hurt. I have had to deal snakes before, but I knew they were snakes and didn't really let it bother me.

Kelsey

5/26/2019 09:29:38 pm

First of all, I didn't realize there were buzzfeed quizzes to test your relationships. That is pretty sad that our society relies on a website to determine if they are in a healthy relationship. I have few friends and I always have, but I feel I can trust those few to be supportive of me. I also don't have a lot of time everyday for lots of friends. Especially when I spend lots of time on family. Having lots of friends is great for some people, but for some just a few satisfies their social needs.

"There's a snake in my boot!" -Woody

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